Slowly and gradually I come to the realization that the loving man i need may not necessarily turn out to be the domestic man I want.
Yes need and want are two different sides of the coin. I know it is possible to get that kind of man… Yeah.. Maybe I will go and marry some where in Asia.. But in Africa men are not trained that way. They are prepared even by their mothers that the woman will do “these” things.
So a young man grows up and begins waiting for the day he will get married so someone else can do his laundry, cook him food and warm his bed.
They can’t be blamed. That is our culture. Men, mine is just a plea… That you help us out.
When I think about all the domestic work a woman has to do in addition to working in a corporate office.. I get scared and want to quit the thought of marriage.
Granted, there are woman who can do all these… Truly.. I get scared and my questions become :
“will I make him happy”
“will in-laws be pleased with me”
“what happens when they come to visit and I am too tired to cook”
“will I be a happy person if my husband doesn’t want to help with house chores”
“how will I cope with being the woman my culture expects me to be when I am not that now”
“will I have a happy marriage if i can’t be the domestic woman”
These are the tough questions that plaque my mind.
The tot of marriage is beautiful but the tot that a woman maybe left to do all the work is painful.
It is a reality I must face no matter how hard… Unless I don’t want to get married. 🙂 but I think I want to.
So lady gird up your loins and get to work. It will only be a miracle for you to get the domestic man.
But man, you could choose to be that miracle… Cos your Mrs right is our there scared to get close cos she feels society demands too much from her.
I am learning hard.